At dahil may nagtanong sakin kagabi kung paano ba mag move on, but I was too preoccupied with work (yes, nag aassemble ako at nagdedebug ako ng code kahit habang umiinom ng beer), eto na ang sagot kong petmalu kung paano nga ba mag move-on.
Ginagawa mo na ngayon, you are alive and you are moving on with your life right now. You’re trying your best to live life without him. Asking me for help is a good sign na nakaka-move on ka na. Kasi gumagawa ka ng paraan para umayos buhay mo. Actually maayos naman buhay mo. Isip mo lang nagugulo dahil sa heartbreak na yun.
It’s all in the mind.
All the what ifs.
All the regrets.
Nasa isip lang lahat yun kaya apektado lahat ng tumatakbo sa buhay mo. The mere fact that you’re thinking of getting back on track is a sign na you’re moving on. Yung hiding behind fake smiles to convince other people that you’re okay…believe it or not, that’s actually YOU TRYING TO MOVE ON.
It could take years, months or weeks for you to move on. May kilala nga ko overnight lang mag move on e. This period(after breakup) can be an anguishing time, having strong effects on personal health, relationships, school and work. Different people manage breakups differently. Some allow themselves to sink into a sea of depression, while others turn their sorrow into anger (blackmail, voodoo dolls, etc.). Most people don’t manage at all. They endure the confusion, the emotional roller coasters, and bide their time till they can finally start fresh. The one thing that makes breakups especially difficult is the inability of people to move on. Many people are unwilling to let go of whatever is left of a broken relationship. I know…
Moving on is not easy.
Pero minsan kasi di lang moving on ang problema mo e, alam mo kung ano?
Pwede kasing nakapag move on ka na ng di mo nalalaman pero di ka pa nakapag let go.
NOT LETTING GO means that you’re still holding on to the memories and the heartaches.
NOT MOVING ON means you’re making those memories and heartaches ruin your life.
Can you see the difference?
Now the question is how do you get through all of these stuffs? From being rejected and a life without that somebody that you used to care for. Madali lang yan pramis!
1.Avoid the former love. Yes, avoid. No, this isn’t being immature. Seeing your former flame can bring out emotions and may cause you do to or say something you will regret. Iniiwasan lang natin dito na makulong ka dahil baka mapatay mo siya. In the first few weeks the best thing you can do for yourself is not be where you know they will be.
2.Talk out your feelings with close friends. Get everything out so that you won’t hold it inside. Your friends may get sick of hearing you talk about the situation, oo napapagod din kami at nagsasawa sa mga kwentong breakup mo but that’s the essence of true friendship. Friends can’t promise to help but they’re always there to listen. Naks! Remember that you need to let out all your feelings and thoughts or they may come back to bite you later.
3.Cry if you want to. It’s OK to cry over a loss. Don’t hold back, let the tears roll but please do it in a safe and private place where it is unlikely to get back to your ex. Wag ka naman umiyak dun sa lugar na rinig ng buong barangay niyo.
You don’t want your tears to be used as a guilt trip. Their purpose is to cleanse you of any pain not make your lover come back.
4.Let go of mementos. Put away or give away anything and everything that reminds you of the relationship. Hide them out of sight so they will be out of mind until you are able to remember the relationship without longing for it to still be going strong. When I say everything, I mean everything from small to expensive stuffs, kung mamahaling bagay yan alam mo naman kung paano ako macontact diba? Ako na bahala magtago niyan para sayo.
5.Don’t slip up and get together with your ex. When you are feeling sad or missing a relationship it can be very easy to fall back in to the arms of your ex but DO NOT DO THIS. This will only set you back and let’s face it, if things ended the relationship wasn’t perfect to begin with so why would you want to rekindle things?
6.Focus on all the things about your ex that drove you crazy, turned you off, or that you just plain found annoying. Think about these things often and replay them in your mind over and over. Dwell on them. Ulit ulitin hanggang sa matauhan ka. It will make you feel better to remember that your former flame was not perfect and that there are things you won’t really miss.
7.Think about the mean, cruel or rude things your ex may have done in your relationship. Really give these things play in your memory. Remind yourself that somebody who truly cared for you would not have done such thoughtless things and tell yourself (over and over) that you are better off without that kind of ego crushing behavior in your life.
8.Maintain a strict no contact policy and stick with it. Don’t pass notes through friends. Don’t make any calls. Stay away from instant messaging or texting on your cell. Just don’t contact your ex until you are totally and completely sure you no longer want to be with him or her. It is the only way.
Just stick to the game plan outlined above and before you know it you’ll be just fine. Pwedeng ulit ulitin ang steps 1 to 8 hanggang sa madala. Tandaan mo na hindi porket madali kang nakapag move on from a breakup means you didn’t value the relationship, it just means that you value your self more and you believe that there’s more to life than love life. Apir!!!
“You’ll become strong when you set free and become even stronger when you learn how to let go”