Apparently, Selena Gomez and Justin Bieber broke up and are trying to reunite and this is important for reasons that I am not sure of. And apparently, I’m interested with Justin-Selena break-up just as much as I’m interested with the group One direction.
What got me is the idea of putting up the effort of being friends again with someone you had relationship with. If Selena would give me call and ask the million dollar question – ‘Can you be friends with your ex?’.
My answer is NO.
You can never talk to him as if you’ve never loved him.
You can never talk to him as if you’ve never kissed him.
And you can never talk to him as if you’ve never planned a future him.
You can never be friends with your Ex, some says it will work but I believe its bullshit. It’s just that… it will never be the same again.
When you breakup with someone you are still going to have feelings for them– you can’t just turn them off once you become friends. This is going to lead to a disaster or disappointment.. or worse.
But why do some people still wants to be friends with their Ex?
Is it an opportunity for closure? Are you looking to get back together? Do you feel you still need their emotional support?. If you couldn’t take your relationship further as a couple, why do you want to be friends with this person? If you think being friends with the source of your pain will help you through an emotional crisis, you’re mistaken. Once you’ve had an opportunity to heal, it may be possible to be friends, but not before.
The bottom line is – understanding what you want out of the friendship is important.
Remember that You deserve to be around people who make you happy. If your ex broke up with you, then you need to reconsider how they really make you feel. If you think they make you happy, then the next day you hate them. Hmmmm…. that doesn’t sound like much fun.
If you’re still hung up on your past, it’s going to be difficult to move on to your future, especially when the person you’re hung up on is still a regular fixture in your life. So get up and relive the saying that there are many fish in the sea. 🙂
Disclaimer: This doesn’t necessarily apply to every ex. There are rare relationships where the ending is truly mutual and neither would care if the other has moved on and are not interested in being an item again. Some people are perfect capable of being chums with their past loves, particularly if their break-ups were mutual, the relationship was more platonic than passionate, or if they jointly outgrew each other.